There is a better way of making things happen in life! You don't have to struggle like everyone else. I remember several years ago, we had two properties, two mortgages, and I was making a choice between finding another contract position or going full time for a lot of pay. I couldn't decide because the full time work was secure but the taxes would be about double since I couldn't expense things anymore. On the other hand, that was the time when companies were scaling down from their hiring...
10 days ago • 2 min read
I want to share something that might make a difference for you... All my life I've been focused on my outer game: acquiring new skills, strategically planning my moves and actions, listing out pros and cons of certain choices. But these last few years have taught me the importance of also working on my inner game: addressing the root cause of my fears, figuring out my patterns, bringing my limiting beliefs to light and making decisions to choose differently in alignment with my desires....
17 days ago • 2 min read
When I started my business, I thought to myself "How hard could it be? I've already been doing this work for years, I'm just doing it for myself instead of as an employee." And how wrong I was! When I looked at the beginning of my career, I see now that I wasn't alone. The whole class of 92 was looking for jobs together. We were sharing leads and tips. We were all experiencing disappointments and getting back up again. I didn't feel behind. When I started in a new company, I had a boss who...
24 days ago • 2 min read
Listen closely because this is foundational... We are always playing a double game: your inner game and your outer game. Your inner game revolves around the way you feel, your beliefs, the meaning you give to events, your identity. Your outer game revolves around what you need to do, the actions and interactions you have with others around you. The challenge is, we have been trained to focus on the outer game and dismiss the inner game: As a kid and you don't feel like going to school, what...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
Do you remember the show jeopardy where you guess the words by "Filling in the blanks"? This is what we do everyday in life. Let me show you... Onc upn a time. Get ready to ___ ! Did you complete the words "Once" and "upon"? Did you fill in the missing word in the second sentence? (Was it rumble or rock or shuffle?) In the same way, do you find yourself filling in the blanks in your conversations? Guessing the words when someone pauses or hesitates? Knowing the conclusion of a story halfway...
about 1 month ago • 3 min read
Well, my ego has taken a beating many times in my lifetime. But this time I'm sharing is something I believe most of you can relate to. I've always been proud of my performance at work. It was a matter of fierce pride that "my work speaks for itself". I was good. I was on the ball. I was a recognized expert. I gained respect and my reputation preceded me... It was part of my identity. So switching to being a business owner, particularly a service business, was hard! Launching an offer and...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
I didn't know what I did this time. But my mom was on a roll again. "You ungrateful child! I drove you to swim classes. I took you to piano lessons. We paid for you to go to the best schools. I stayed up to teach you when you were a kid." and on and on the list went. I couldn't get a word in edgewise. And even if I did, it would just prolong the torture. Better keep my mouth shut and ride it out as usual. But this time I swore the "I will never be dependent on anyone ever again!" When I grow...
2 months ago • 2 min read
Disclaimer: Details about this client has been anonymized to protect her identity. She was an artist, brilliant in creating beautiful things: beautiful art, beautiful music, beautiful words. But all her life, she knew she could only be loved for being useful to others. And it hurt! The rejection she felt hurt so much. Beliefs make our reality. They form the rules by which we live our lives. And when we deliberately ignore them, we feel uncomfortable, sometimes to the point of pain or...
2 months ago • 2 min read
Reader, have you ever wanted something so bad you could almost taste it? Yet it still feels so far away. A longing that seems to stretch on and on. Do you know that this is a symptom? It's a symptom of disbelief that what you want is possible (or morally responsible). 😲 It feels far away because your limiting beliefs (yes let's call it that) are pushing them back. What you feel is the tension between the desire you acknowledge and the possibility you deny. When you deal with these limiting...
3 months ago • 2 min read